Balance and Behavior: The Social Structure of a New Paradigm Shift
Modifying Children’s Social Skills
Adulthood bears the brunt of years of responsibility. Socially adaptable, cognitively aware, and independently empathic, adults have the advantage of imparting the same wisdom and techniques onto their children. The skill in which we do this, however, must be altered to a younger level.
While boundary limitations regarding children should be erected to maintain their mental and physical safety, a child’s social achievements are a direct influence and showcase of the efforts put forth by adult interaction and action taken during socialization phases of a child’s natural growth. A simple playdate, while fun for the child is fine for an hour or two. A weekend sleepover will suffice and allow your children time to burn off energy. All great and memorable times.
A balance of the paradigm is the shift that will most benefit your child with the inclusion of structure, peer similarity and equal status.
Social Science and Peer Popularity.
Nothing can break down a child’s resilience and self esteem better than underdeveloped or suddenly halted relationship. Things like a fight with a best friend, a reprimand by a teacher, older sibling or parent leave a child confused, tense and behaviorally coiled to strike out in a negative way to demonstrate their feelings.
Children physically mature much quicker than empathically and to keep their sense of independence balanced, they show it with action, rather than thought. Why? Because their voices haven’t kept up with the growing pains. Finding the cohesive way to articulate what they are feeling at the exact moment of an outburst of negative behavior is the contributing value in the missing equation.
Allowing your child the freedom to role-play provides them scenarios to choose from and moods accompanied by their choices. Offering different words and personal experiences will bolster your child’s sense of awareness and capability while giving them more independence to grow through a social altercation or peer roadblock with positive results, not negative assaults. Talk with them, not to or at them….after all, kids are the masterpieces that we want to have showcased in our community.